The Holidays' Most Embarrassing Moments
Holiday social settings are fraught with opportunities for the dreaded faux pas. Being aware of social etiquette and planning ahead can help you prevent embarrassing yourself, whether you're celebrating at the office, with neighbors or among extended family. Here are some of the most common challenges:
The MIA RSVP.
One of the most frustrating and increasingly common problems with hosting a holiday party is not receiving an RSVP. It is perfectly acceptable to call those who haven't responded for an answer. (Don't just assume they're not coming.) If you are the one who forgot to RSVP, apologize profusely and offer to bring something to the party!
The Office Party.
The number one cardinal rule is to refrain from drinking too much. At the very least, make every other drink a glass of water. Also, don't overdress - women should skip the glitter, revealing outfits and uncomfortable heels. If you're not sure how to dress, ask the person organizing the event. If you bring a date or spouse, don't abandon him or her to celebrate with your coworkers - but do mingle and get to know people better.
Ace Your Introductions.
If you want to approach someone you haven't met at a party, you can simply say, "I don't believe we've met. My name is ____."
If you've been introduced before but don't remember that person's name, say, "I believe we met at (occasion). I'm (first and last name)." Hopefully, the other person will pick up on the hint and introduce himself or herself. If not, be honest and say, "I'm drawing a blank. Can you remind me of your name?"
Finally, to introduce two acquaintances, address the "senior" person or the woman first. "Mr. Billings, I'd like you to meet my husband, (name)." Say a little something about each person that might start a conversation on a common interest.
Everyone should stand for an introduction, not just men.
The Awkward Comment.
At family parties or other social situations where a guest may have overindulged, you may have to field an overly personal question or even hurtful comment. It's best to make light of the comment and deftly change the subject. Try not to let your emotions show.
The Dying Conversation.
Everyone feels uncomfortable when the conversation dies at a party. The important thing to remember is that you're more likely to embarrass yourself by talking too much about yourself than not enough. Ask the other guests about their interests. Before your holiday parties, come up with a few conversation-starting questions, such as: How do you know the hosts? What are your plans for the holidays? Have you seen any of the holiday productions/movies that are in town? When in doubt, talking about the food or the room is perfectly fine.
The Unanticipated Gift Exchange.
If someone has a gift for you but you haven't reciprocated, don't fumble through an excuse. Just ooh and aah over the gift and thank them sincerely. You can always send them a gift later. Even a hostess gift can be sent after the fact. Better yet, check out the Time Savers article for suggestions of extra gifts you can have on hand for just such an occasion.
Question:
What embarrassing social situations do you have a tip for?
